Qualified Stepmom

I saw a debate on the term bio-mom. I am a stepmom and my stepdaughters have a 'bio-mom'. I don't think of her as their bio-mom, though. She is their mom. She doesn't need the qualifier to describe who she is to her children. It's pretty simple. Mom.

I get the qualifier. There has to be a qualifier somewhere and it makes sense that the qualifier goes to me. I am their stepmom and I am a proud stepmom.

I don't use qualifiers when talking about my stepdaughters. I don't feel a need to identify which are my stepchildren and which are my biological children. That has nothing to do with wanting to take over as their Mom. It has to do with them being as important to me as my own children.

There are a lot of issues surrounding families and stepchildren. It can be made to be very complex and difficult but it seems so simple to me. Love and treat your stepchildren as your own children and respect their parents as their parents.  The rest just works itself out.

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