I saw a debate on the term bio-mom. I am a stepmom and my stepdaughters have a 'bio-mom'. I don't think of her as their bio-mom, though. She is their mom. She doesn't need the qualifier to describe who she is to her children. It's pretty simple. Mom.
I get the qualifier. There has to be a qualifier somewhere and it makes sense that the qualifier goes to me. I am their stepmom and I am a proud stepmom.
I don't use qualifiers when talking about my stepdaughters. I don't feel a need to identify which are my stepchildren and which are my biological children. That has nothing to do with wanting to take over as their Mom. It has to do with them being as important to me as my own children.
There are a lot of issues surrounding families and stepchildren. It can be made to be very complex and difficult but it seems so simple to me. Love and treat your stepchildren as your own children and respect their parents as their parents. The rest just works itself out.
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I agree I'm a Step Mom a Adopted Mom and a Bio Mom but here in the house I'm just Mom and they are my kids. The only time it ever comes up is when it necessary like at the Doctors or for legal reason. I shocked a friend the other day. She has been a friend since high school but we fell out touch and when I introduce to my family I never shared who was who with her other than my kids and for five years now she thought I gave birth to all of them. Until she was helping me out at the doctors office and they were asking history question I could not answer. It made me feel good that she didn't know or even suspect. It made feel like I'm doing my job.
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