My Daughter-In-Law

Ryan and Sheree are going through a difficult time. They've had them before. This one is different. I'm not sure they will pull through this time. That's hard to say, hard to think. The idea makes me feel sadness and loss. Odd as it is, I also feel hopeful. In the end, I want and believe that whatever happens, they will both be happy. Meanwhile, I'm watching while their both struggling and hurting where they are. It's hard to see. I worry for Jayden. They love Jayden and would always want to do the best by her they can but they are both so young, and it's easy to get lost in the emotions and confusion of what they are going through. You don't hear people talk about this part. The rest of the family. Sheree "fit". She became part of our family. Not my sons wife or the kids sister-in-law. She became part of the family. Bumps and warts and all. We all like her family. They became an extended part of our family. When Lissy married Matt, the same thing happened. We knew his family long before and it became a natural and easy extension of our family. All of us, as parents, work toward the best for all of the kids, not just our own. All of our kids are comfortable hanging out with the in-laws and all of their kids are comfortable with us. I thought it was God watching out for me. He brings me great people to grow my family with. I was sure that it would keep going like that. Then William brought us Angela. It didn't look like her family and ours were going to meld. It wasn't going to be a joint effort for the common good. My apple cart was upset. Now this. I don't know how Ryan and Sheree's situation effects our family. I don't know how the pieces fall now. I love Sheree. I told Ryan; "you brought her to me, you wanted me to love her, I did, and you can't take that away from me now." He understood. I believe he will never put me in a position to chose between him and Sheree. It's still confusing. For her, too. She is unsure where she fits with us. Sometimes she's mad and scared and wants to pull away from us. I expected that to happen. I told her it would and that it's ok. I'm going to be here anyway. I love her, like I said, bumps and warts and all. I've had other things happen that feel, at the time, like the important pieces of my life are coming apart. It ends up being a perception from fear of the unkown. It always works out to be more like an evolution or a morphing into something different but still good. If they are not able to bring their relationship together, they and this family will experience the evolution and morphing into something different but good. Sheree will always be a part of that.